The other day, I met this guy…
I had just started my last shift in my last job, when this man came in with a pack of paperwork. He was going to start working with us as a locum.
His main job was a taxi driver, and he said that he liked being self employed and on zero hour contracts, for this allows him to work as much or as little as he wants at any given time. “And it goes like that,” he said, “work hard for a few months, then go travelling for one. Then work hard for another few months and travel for one… This year, I walked the Chinese Wall!”
I said I like the thought of that, but am too security conscious(*) not to have a permanent job with a guaranteed income.
(*) I think this comes from my parents. I grew up knowing from early on that I`ll be on my own if I get myself into trouble, particularly if self-inflicted. Although I`m married since 12 years, my subconscious cannot accept that my husband is different and that I can count his income towards mine.
“My dad died very suddenly at 55,” the new locum explained. “He always worked, never really lived. A year and a bit later, I was diagnosed with cancer. I`m alright now, but that`s changed me. I want to live. I want to live now, so I only work as much as I have to, in order do what I want to do. But if I drop at 55, I`ll have had all that.”
There was nothing I could say other than say that he is right.
Another guy has been made redundant, and before he`ll even look for a new job, he will travel Europe. My first thought was “How can he fritter all his redundancy money on travelling before even knowing when he will work again and how much he will earn!” but he said “I always worked, I have never done anything like that, and now, I have both the time and the money.”
He` s right, too.
It is me who is probably wrong. Voluntary Redundancy with a package and eager to jump straight to the next job. Annoyed about three weeks downtime. Not really liking it 100%, but not leaving until I`ve got another job. Again, annoyed about three weeks downtime.
I asked on Facebook for suggestions re how to fill them. “Come to us!” This was my friend in Jerusalem, who already invited us 10 years ago. But my husband is rather cautious with regards to going Eastwards, and we didn`t want to take our limited holidays separately.
Instead, I`m going for a 4th time to Crete and a 4th time to Portugal as well. Last year, we were in Malta, and I started to feel how everything was merging into one, taking away from the appreciation I felt for each holiday. It was there that I felt something needs to change, that I need to start experiencing different things.
My new job is just for a year, and my first thought with regards to Jerusalem was: save over that year and plan a visit for after the job has finished. And then, I thought why? It may become permanent, and I may have already planned my leave otherwise by the time I`ll know. It is now that I have three weeks spare. And my redundancy package is still there, I hardly touched it. And I also said I want to take a holiday on my own some time (although I had Paris in mind, which he is not interested in).
So I PNned her and asked if she was serious.
To cut the next bits short – it`s booked!!! I` m flying to Israel this Saturday coming to see my friend and her family, undertake tons of day trips on my own while she is working, and get fat from eating Ottolengi-style every single day. And I`ll make Instagram crash!!
Can`t put into words how excited I am!!