ATTENTION SEEKING OR: OF GIVING AND TAKING

WHAT IS FREELY GIVEN DOES NOT HAVE TO BE TAKEN.
WHAT IS FORCEFULLY TAKEN CANNOT BE GIVEN.

I read the first bit in some book, and the context was sex, where I have major issues with this quote. I added the second bit myself.

It makes me think of attention seeking behavior more than anything else.

Imagine a child who doesn`t get enough love and attention at home for whatever reason. Hoping that this will get him noticed, this child may start misbehaving, but mum is seeing right through him and chooses not to reward this kind of behavior. Child may become even naughtier, and mum starts to punish by total ignorance. Meanwhile, other children start ignoring him, too, because he`s so annoying.

Also, any attention he is given will not be volunteered or loving, and he may be old enough to know, feel or question this and continue to behave in a way that he hopes will bring him the kind of attention he really wants. It`s really draining for others and doesn`t make him seem a likable person at all – problem exacerbated, actually.

But eventually, he may no longer be able to act in any other way.

(Blog inspired by a discussion about Cristiano Ronaldo. We were wondering why he acts the way he does while he is already lavished with attention for his great talent and also from women.)

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