A friend of mine has split from her partner. This was good, but left her with a few practical problems. She had, for example, ordered a new kitchen, and he had agreed to help dismantling and discarding of the old one. Unwilling to ask him this last favor or pay someone else, she (let`s call her Kirsty) asked a friend (Jenny), whose husband is a joiner and has a big enough van as well.
Jenny had previously said she`d help in any way she possibly could, but she is also notoriously unreliable. Unable to say no to anything or anyone, she always finds herself agreeing to commitments which she does not really want to do, and which she then has to get out of at the last minute, because her motivation never appears.
Kirsty knows this, stressed to Jenny how important this was and therefore relied on her not to let her down. Jenny passed her request to her husband, but, for unknown reasons, he declined. Still, Jenny went back to Kirsty and said of course, they`d help. Maybe, she was was hoping to talk him round, maybe she was hoping for Kirsty to understand hints… nobody knows (but Jenny).
Over the next few weeks, Kirsty sensed a change in attitude from Jenny – not looking her in the eye when they talked about the kitchen project, increasingly complaining about how busy she would be over the next few weeks. She even stopped texting her during X-factor to discuss the candidates and seemed short when Kirsty contacted her… It just did not feel right, but Kirsty refused to pursue other options. Surely, Jenny wouldn`t do that to her.
On the morning however, Jenny texted and said both her and her husband were down with sickness and diarrhoea and therefore had to cancel. The two haven`t spoken since. One feels betrayed and let down, the other victimised for falling ill.